How do you do ALL that you do?

This is my visual response to people who asks me this question including the end.

Quick rundown of the things I have going on right now:

  • Full-time Turbine Test Engineering Career
  • S.T.E.A.M. Education business owner and entrepreneur
  • Women’s Church Ministry Leader Ages 18-35
  • Middle school girls robotics coach
  • Applying to M.B.A. programs (and GMAT Prep)
  • Meetup Social group organizer
  • Planning our first family reunion
  • Liturgical dancer
  • Styling my hair
  • Traveling Often
  • Dating for Marriage
  • Artsy fun with painting and theater
  • Re-gaining beach body fitness
  • 20s Living with my girls


Starting this summer, I’m actively going to do better with free time.  I will be on travel most of July, so that will help me transition quite nicely.  One major time management and stress reduction technique that I use is to make a checklist everyday.  I list 2 things that I want to complete for work, and 2 things that I want to complete outside of work.  For major things that may roll over, I list them at the top of my planner page as 2 goals for the week.  Also, I can only commit to one after-work event per day, reserving one weekday as a chill day at home.

For lifestyle items, I cook 1-2 meals per week with leftovers, I clean 1-2 load of laundry per weekend start to finish, and I clean one area of my place (bathroom, bedroom/linen, living area, dining area) every Sunday.


I seem to manage everything pretty good, but I know stress is on the horizon when I double-book events on the same day, don’t wash any laundry that week, stop exercising/ dancing, or stop writing.  These are my warning signs before the physical ailments of sleep-deprivation, vocal cord dysfunction, or a sinus infection.

Pray for me yall!  While I love being busy, it’s not good for my health, and I’ve learned that it distracts me from my purpose.  We are all here “just enough time to do God’s Will”.  I never want to be too over-worked and over-stressed to be winning at this thing called life.

2015 Resolutions

In the words of my SD grandpa: Plans won’t cut it.  You can ‘plan’ to do something and even put it on a calendar, but that still won’t make it happen.  It only becomes significant when you are making actions toward it.

Happy 2015

1 Year

1. Interview and land a new position at my company – DONE

2. Read 12 books, my choice.  First one was Total Money Makeover.

3. Save $10,000 between savings, emergency fund, and house fund.

4. Learn Spanish good enough to hold a conversation with the cleaning lady that tells me a daily joke. Around Speaking Level 2 on the ILR scale – Limited Working Proficiency

5. Learn the Piano, enough to play a trendy song in a hotel lobby

6. A weekly public display of one of my minor sports: Yoga, Golf, Softball, Ice Skating.

Personally, I’m not one for resolutions, but God has already helped me part of the way through these and I’m excited to share my testimony when I complete them all!  In searching for a different name for the title– I realized I can stop playing, they really are New Years Resolutions!


Martin Soler Photography

I’ve already started some Future ones too!

5 Year

Travel to my 3 dream places: Rio, Paris, Hawaii.

Learn French

Buy a condo

Live and work internationally

[all of those would be done if I Lived and worked in France!]

10 Year

Complete my MBA and match my 2015 salary in earnings from my business

Combine my corporate position with my business

Pray with me yall!

What it be like? Summer’13

Boy, how the summer has flown by.  Some new things, some old thangs.


1. I moved into a new apartment!  I love it even more than my first one.  It’s a 2 bedroom… any visitors?!

2. I’ve passed the 1 year mark of living in San Diego.  Now all of the things are repeating themselves from when I first moved here.  Such as: FOOTBALL, church anniversary, pumpkin spice latte.

3. I’ve been to over 5 doctors in the past couple of months.  Ever since I had the flu in January, there have been a couple lingering things.  Nothing contagious, finished antibiotics, just some pain and stuff going on a daily basis.

4. I did a org-purge.  Like just went cold turkey on all of my organizations I was in.  God is still working with me on over-commitments.

5. Dating a Navy Man!  I’m learning something new everyday, which is awesome.

6. Had a 1 year luncheon with my team and my performance appraisal with my boss, both went great.  I still love my job!  And they love me, about 15 people came to my lunch 🙂

1 year luncheon

7.  I’ve gone to the beach a lot less, but been going to the pool a lot more due to pool parties and summer activities.

8.  I am getting so bored with my hair and decided to loc it up during the first part of next year.

9. I’ve done the 5K’s that I mentioned in the Spring’13 post.  I have at least 2 more to do this year.  I think this will just be a 5K year.  Maybe next year for the 10K and dare I say half marathon?!

10. I am on the cover of a book!! Beat that.

Two Way Mirrors by Just Jewel

That’s my life updates for those who care and I just haven’t spoken to in a while.  Also, it’s there for those don’t care… cuz you read to the bottom, so actually you do care!  Smooches.

updates, starting Now!

Coronado Beach

Among a couple 2013 New Year’s Resolutions — that are neither defined, documented nor by any way am I held accountable — is to “do better” with this bloggy.  So I plan on giving quick update snippets until I find something really interesting to talk about.

Biggest News: I live in California and I love it!  Great job, abode, friends, church, and beach.  All in all, Great God.


Mission Beach

Navigating Indianapolis like a Pro

This is written with the intention of preparing those coming to Indianapolis for the Superbowl 46.  It’s a really great city, and now that I’ve lived here for a couple days over 2 years, I’m pretty much an expert!

1. Nobody can drive.  Like nobody.  Seriously though, many people run red lights around here.  Definitely look both ways before driving through an intersection.  There are lots of impatient drivers that will go in the off-ramp to pass you, that will cross over double-yellow lines to pass you, and go through an intersection although your light is bright and green.

2. Remember how to get to I-465.  That’s one of the things that makes Indy the “Circle City”.  It’s the main freeway that is close to everything, yet close to nothing.  You can get anywhere in the circle in 20 minutes.  If you’re anywhere outside of that, give it 30 minutes.

3. Don’t be fooled by the JW Marriott.  It is gorgeous, a good place to meet up and socialize, and the staff is really great.  However, the food and drinks are awful.  Just really, don’t even risk it unless you are really just going to chill or get a cup of cafe americano (espresso and water) because they don’t have coffee at the bar 🙁  Which leads me to #4. 

4. The private/non-chain restaurants are awesome!  My favs are: Maxine’s Chicken and Waffles (near downtown) – only get the chicken and sweet potato waffle even if it sounds scary.  You can also branch out with the sides of Fried Green Tomatoes and Grits.  Papa Roux (east side/downtown) – I always get the Smoked Sausage Po’Boy.  The east side location has bottomless sides.  I always get the bread pudding and red beans and rice, but you can taste all of them free of charge.  Monon Food Company (north side) – the BEST (strong statement) mac and cheese I’ve EVER had!  You have to get the side of it.  I pair that with the Chipotle Fish tacos.  They also feature Micro brews along with Imports, Domestic Beers and Wine.

5.  Alcohol is not sold in stores on Sunday.  Not a fan of the hard stuff, but I do like a fine wine with my Sunday dinner.  Shoot, you have to plan dinner and all beverages ahead of time so you won’t be stuck out in the cold.  For those that really need that fix, most restaurants do serve liquor, but you just can’t go to the stores or gas stations for your libation.

6. The downtown mall has the best parking, but nothing inside.  I’m not sure why the Circle Centre Mall was designed the way it is, but the aisles are small with a huge opening in the middle where you can see to the floor below.  It’s nice looking, but it is always packed on the weekends.  It’s not because there are that many people, but because there is no space to walk. Event Parking is usually $20, but if you can find $20 of stuff to buy in the mall (mine is usually spent at Chick-Fil-A), they charge you the normal rate of $1.50 for 3 hours.


With all of that being said, it is really a great city.  My favorite pastimes include the museums and the parks.  There is so much information and they are beautiful.  Welcome to my new city, have a great time, and come back soon!

GM Oil Life Monitor

*Disclaimer – I have a clue about cars.  This story begins when my friend saw me rip the oil sticker off my windshield as soon as I got back in the car after an oil change, he was shocked!  I told him that I have a GM car and it has super powers lets me know when to change my oil.  After going back and forth with the arguement, it concluded with me shutting it down by saying “My daddy says it’s true and he’s kept a car running for over 30 years!” 😛


But, I really wasn’t all that sure.  After searching, I first came across GM’s Technical Tip and Cadillac Maintenance info.  Then, perused one of my fav sites and found the video above, and one with a really attractive mechanic!  And for all those “hip” readers of the 21st century, there are articles about trusting the system, and if you really have to change oil every 3,000 miles.  They have all come to the conclusion that the Oil Monitoring System really does work!  It takes into account your driving conditions, the current engine performance, and better grades of oil.  It is also great for helping the environment with oil disposal.  In conclusion, I WIN! I’ll continue with changing my oil around 10% for now.

Twin’s 25th Birthday

This is an interesting year for birthdays.  All of my really close friends (and me) are turning 25!!  Of course, I’m the last since my birthday is in December.  June started the festivities with my best friend Philip.  I call him my Twin because he’s the male version of me.  His girlfriend thought of the idea to have a Surprise Party and teamed up with his two other best friends and me.  The planning for it started all the way back in March.  The best part was we had contacts from his high school days, his college days, and at his current job.

We finally decided on doing at a bowling alley.  Everybody hid in the bar until he walked in.  As shown in the video, he was really shocked!  Following a game of bowling and libations, we surprised him with a party bus outside of a nearby bar, The Post.  We then rode to his favorite bar, Woody’s and partied the night away.  It was a bit complicated getting everyone back to the bus, but we didn’t have to leave anyone 😉  We got back to The Post in time to shake it for the last hour.  The night was a complete success and I can’t wait until the next party!

Xbox Kinect and Its Friends


Friday, we had a game night with my ‘twin’ Philip and my girls Aja and Courtney.  Philip has every single video game system and every component for them all.  He even has the Playstation Move, which I never heard of <but that’s not saying much because I didn’t hear about Xbox Kinect until he told me>.

The Move didn’t seem too different from the concept of the Wii, but of course according to them, it shalt not compare.  The Move just seems to require a lot more precision the the Wii, which really depends on the user if you like that or not.  It had a really cool archery game on the Sports Champions game.  We also had a BLAST with Def Jam Rap Star, which really does have it’s own online community.  The video below describes the exact experience, although you may not quickly grab you a honey dip just cuz you think you rap well on the game.  Of course, the game blanks out all of the “non-PC” curse words, but surprisingly, you get extra points if you actually say the words where they are supposed to go.  Kanye’s Gold Digger was a personal fav!  They also play the entire video for all of the songs while you rap.

We spent about 4 straight hours playing the Kinect!  The system even reminded us that we may need to take a break lol.  I can honestly say Dance Central is the best game EVER invented!  They do indeed have ethnic songs like “Push It“, the old Rihanna “Pon da Replay“, the Delta theme “Drop It Like It’s Hot“, and a classic ethnic favorite “Poison“!  My favorites to watch were Corbin cranking that Soulja Boy, and Courtney and Aja battling it out to “Dip It Low” <–the choreographer KILLS it on this link.

We played Kinect Adventures just to get warmed up, but it wasn’t anything too fantastic.  We also played Fighters Uncaged, but we got bored doing the training before they put you in a real fight.  It was extra tiring and all 5 of us had to rotate shifts just to get through it.  We tried to set up Motion Sports to do football, but it took too long just trying to recognize Philip’s face in the dim light.  That game got the quick eject and back to Dance Central.  That was the only downside other than its ability to get hacked to use the motion technology on your computer or other systems. 

DJ Hero will always have a special place in my heart, but Dance Central is THE ONE.


I had a date weekend with the boo!  We’re still long distance and instead of driving the 4 hours, we sometimes meet in the middle.  We’ve met in Fort Wayne, IN twice, but this time it was a city equally as ‘unique’, Dayton, OH.  It was a 2 hour drive for me.  I recommend it to anyone in a semi-long distance relationship and we highly recommend Priceline for hotels under $50 a night.  We’ve had the best luck with 3 1/2 star rooms.  The only difference between 3 and 3 1/2 is a flat-screen tv.  I don’t like to spend much time in a hotel room when I visit a new city so I really don’t need anything spectacular.

The first night we got in and visited downtown Dayton for dinner at The Spaghetti Warehouse.  We won’t be back there to eat.  The best things about the place were the decorations and the train that had dining tables.  The complimentary bread was bland, and the spaghetti AND meatballs weren’t seasoned at all.  I had the lasagna and it was just a step above the spaghetti (bland.3).  It really seemed like it was a local favorite though because there were a couple of large birthday parties while we were there.  We also ate at The Waffle House (personal fav) and Chick-CanDoNoWrong-Fil-A.

We went to the movie theater Friday and Saturday to see Hereafter and Paranormal Activity 2.  Hereafter was aight.  I wasn’t a big fan of the ending, and the previews gave away a little too much information.  It basically tells the entire plot and nothing in the movie really surprised me, so don’t watch the trailer… unless you don’t want to watch the movie.  I really liked Paranormal Activity 2.  I’m a huge fan of sequels especially when they connect in a great way to the original.  The movie definitely connected to the original in a way that no one expected!  Corbin hasn’t seen the original so I did have to fill him in on a couple details.

The other highlight of the weekend was the Majestic Nursery & Garden Corn Maze.  It took us about 30 minutes to get there, but it was well worth it.  It really gave us time to bond and I think it really help us understand our roles in our relationship.  I let him take hold of the map and guide us through.  I would give my opinion, but it was definitely a task for me to just follow him. 😉  The maze was a lot more difficult than we thought because we had the added task of finding 5 different scarecrows along the way.  After about an hour, and much exercise, we found all 5 scarecrows, but only 4 of them had cards to prove it. :/  Corbin was the navigator keeping us on path, and I scoped out the scenery finding the scarecrows along the way.  We made it to the end to get our surprise gift (see below) lol.  I highly recommend taking a random vacation just to season your relationship or spice up your life! #spicegirls